Nonmonogamy and Defying a Paradigm

Marla Schreiber (MSW, RSW) is a white, Queer, gender-defiant, neurodivergent therapist and educator. In their anti-oppressive, trauma-informed therapy work, Marla specializes in nonmonogamous relationships and 2SLGBTQIA+ identities.

• AcknowledgementsIntroductionPart One: Concepts and Definitions Defining NonmonogamyOK, but We Can’t Not Talk Polyamory What’s a Paradigm?Mononormativity: Let’s Dig InIs It Even Mononormativity Without Couple’s Privilege?Mononormativity Can Cause HarmPart Two: Concepts in ActionThe Trap of Toxic PositivityPractising Takes PracticeUnlearning a Paradigm: Let’s Be Kind to OurselvesConflict Is Not a Four-Letter WordA Note on Safety and BoundariesPart Three: When Mononormativity Shows Up UninvitedHow Do We Unpack Couple’s Privilege?What If It Feels Like Cheating?What If My Partner Likes Someone More and Leaves Me?What If My Partner’s Attraction to Someone Else Makes Them Less Attracted to Me?Conclusion