Nonmonogamy and Group Dynamics

Red DeRooy (any pronouns) is a queer, trans graduate student from Ottawa, specializing in linguistics. Red organizes a monthly poly discussion group, has given both academic and non-academic talks on polyamory, and has been featured in the YouTube series The Poly Diaries. Red has edited several popular-science books, including The Top Ten Diseases of All Time (University of Ottawa Press) and How to Write^Edit Your Scientific Article (World Scientific).Stacey Smith? (she/her) is a queer, trans professor and writer who has published more than 30 non-fiction books, including The Top Ten Diseases of All Time (University of Ottawa Press). She gives talks on polyamory in both academic and non-academic settings, has appeared on CBC Radio discussing polyamory and has been featured in the YouTube series The Poly Diaries. She is also a professor of disease modelling at the University of Ottawa and the editor of the Outside In series of pop culture reviews.

• IntroductionPrioritizationHierarchyAgreementsCategoriesInstinctsWorking with Overlapping StylesExpectationsPartner-Bonding TimeGroup IntimacyPrivacy and DisclosureDecision-MakingCohesivenessConflictUnfounded Insecurity: Use Empathy, Avoid Problem-SolvingConflicting Needs: Empathy First, Then Problem-Solve TogetherBreaches of Trust: Get All the Facts, Then Seek Empathy or Problem-SolveControlling Behaviours: Talk to People Outside Your RelationshipIrreconcilable Differences: Knowing When to Walk AwayShifts in Group StructureNew Group MembersBreakupsEscalations and De-EscalationsYour Romantic Group’s DynamicsNotesGlossary

Select Guide Rating