Monica Lanyado is a child and adolescent psychotherapist who has worked with severely neglected and traumatised children for 40 years. She is a training supervisor at the British Psychotherapy Foundation. Her publications include The Presence of the Therapist: Treating Childhood Trauma (2004) and, co-edited with Ann Horne, The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Approaches (1999, 2009) and the Independent Psychoanalytic Approaches with Children and Adolescents series.

• Foreword – Peter Wilson AcknowledgementsIntroductionChapter 1 The far reaching consequences of neglect and trauma in childhood.Chapter 2 The historical and social context: influences on the treatment of severely neglected and traumatised children today.Chapter 3. The absence of ‘holding’ and containment, and the absence of parental protection.Chapter 4. Complex traumatic childhood losses: mourning and acceptance, endings and beginnings.Chapter 5. Playing out not acting out: the development of the capacity to play in the therapy of children who are ‘in transition’ from fostering to adoption. (2008)Chapter 6. ‘The playful presence of the therapist: ‘antidoting’ defences in the therapy of a late-adopted adolescent patient (2006)Chapter 7. Transition and change: an exploration of the resonances between transitional and meditative states of mind and their role in the therapeutic process. (2012)Chapter 8. The impact of listening on the listener: consultation to the helping professions who work with sexually abused young people. (2009)Chapter 9. ‘Transforming despair to hope in the treatment of extreme trauma: a view from the supervisor’s chair’ (2016)Appendix: publicationsReferencesIndex

‘In her customary erudite and accessible writing, Monica Lanyado uses a wide range of theoretical understanding to address the ways in which despair in these children and in those who try to help them, can be transformed into hope for a better future. She champions and celebrates the work of psychoanalytic child and adolescent psychotherapists who have worked with these young people now for many decades. She synthesises her wisdom into an important resource for anybody wishing to extend their understanding of this vital work.’ Angela Joyce, Training and Supervising Psychoanalyst, Child Psychoanalyst, British Psychoanalytic Society. Chair of Winnicott Trust.‘This book springs from the rich resources of a professional lifetime devoted to the challenge of treating seriously neglected and abused children. Using a Winnicottian approach to both technique and theory, Monica Lanyado is led to devote attention to the well-being of the therapist as well as the child. She has learned what desperation the therapist can suffer and how vital it is to understand and manage this. Therapists will find this book an empathic and supportive companion which can help them bring hope to traumatised lives.’Juliet Hopkins Ph.D., Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist. British Foundation of Psychotherapists. ‘There are few authors who can describe what actually happens in therapy as vividly as Monica Lanyado. This book examines the real-life process of therapeutic change for children who have experienced neglect and trauma and the thinking is underpinned by a range of accessible and well-integrated traditional as well as recent theory. It is a must-read for all those working therapeutically with children and young people.’ Niki Cooper Ph.D., Head of Learning Place2Be ‘Life chances are dramatically influenced by family and community adversities and, more specifically, abuse and neglect. Lanyado’s book identifies many of the key issues we must pay attention to and especially those which are focussed on children’s recovery from such adversities through therapeutic interventions. She does not avoid the challenges or the frustrations. But there are profound insights and experiences throughout this book and a lasting sense of possibility and hope.’John Simmonds OBE, Director of Policy, Research and Development, CoramBAAF

Monica Lanyado is a child and adolescent psychotherapist who has worked with severely neglected and traumatised children for 40 years. She is a training supervisor at the British Psychotherapy Foundation. Her publications include The Presence of the Therapist: Treating Childhood Trauma (2004) and, co-edited with Ann Horne, The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Approaches (1999, 2009) and the Independent Psychoanalytic Approaches with Children and Adolescents series.

• Foreword – Peter Wilson AcknowledgementsIntroductionChapter 1 The far reaching consequences of neglect and trauma in childhood.Chapter 2 The historical and social context: influences on the treatment of severely neglected and traumatised children today.Chapter 3. The absence of ‘holding’ and containment, and the absence of parental protection.Chapter 4. Complex traumatic childhood losses: mourning and acceptance, endings and beginnings.Chapter 5. Playing out not acting out: the development of the capacity to play in the therapy of children who are ‘in transition’ from fostering to adoption. (2008)Chapter 6. ‘The playful presence of the therapist: ‘antidoting’ defences in the therapy of a late-adopted adolescent patient (2006)Chapter 7. Transition and change: an exploration of the resonances between transitional and meditative states of mind and their role in the therapeutic process. (2012)Chapter 8. The impact of listening on the listener: consultation to the helping professions who work with sexually abused young people. (2009)Chapter 9. ‘Transforming despair to hope in the treatment of extreme trauma: a view from the supervisor’s chair’ (2016)Appendix: publicationsReferencesIndex

‘In her customary erudite and accessible writing, Monica Lanyado uses a wide range of theoretical understanding to address the ways in which despair in these children and in those who try to help them, can be transformed into hope for a better future. She champions and celebrates the work of psychoanalytic child and adolescent psychotherapists who have worked with these young people now for many decades. She synthesises her wisdom into an important resource for anybody wishing to extend their understanding of this vital work.’ Angela Joyce, Training and Supervising Psychoanalyst, Child Psychoanalyst, British Psychoanalytic Society. Chair of Winnicott Trust.‘This book springs from the rich resources of a professional lifetime devoted to the challenge of treating seriously neglected and abused children. Using a Winnicottian approach to both technique and theory, Monica Lanyado is led to devote attention to the well-being of the therapist as well as the child. She has learned what desperation the therapist can suffer and how vital it is to understand and manage this. Therapists will find this book an empathic and supportive companion which can help them bring hope to traumatised lives.’Juliet Hopkins Ph.D., Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist. British Foundation of Psychotherapists. ‘There are few authors who can describe what actually happens in therapy as vividly as Monica Lanyado. This book examines the real-life process of therapeutic change for children who have experienced neglect and trauma and the thinking is underpinned by a range of accessible and well-integrated traditional as well as recent theory. It is a must-read for all those working therapeutically with children and young people.’ Niki Cooper Ph.D., Head of Learning Place2Be ‘Life chances are dramatically influenced by family and community adversities and, more specifically, abuse and neglect. Lanyado’s book identifies many of the key issues we must pay attention to and especially those which are focussed on children’s recovery from such adversities through therapeutic interventions. She does not avoid the challenges or the frustrations. But there are profound insights and experiences throughout this book and a lasting sense of possibility and hope.’John Simmonds OBE, Director of Policy, Research and Development, CoramBAAF

Monica Lanyado is a child and adolescent psychotherapist who has worked with severely neglected and traumatised children for 40 years. She is a training supervisor at the British Psychotherapy Foundation. Her publications include The Presence of the Therapist: Treating Childhood Trauma (2004) and, co-edited with Ann Horne, The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy: Psychoanalytic Approaches (1999, 2009) and the Independent Psychoanalytic Approaches with Children and Adolescents series.

• Foreword – Peter Wilson AcknowledgementsIntroductionChapter 1 The far reaching consequences of neglect and trauma in childhood.Chapter 2 The historical and social context: influences on the treatment of severely neglected and traumatised children today.Chapter 3. The absence of ‘holding’ and containment, and the absence of parental protection.Chapter 4. Complex traumatic childhood losses: mourning and acceptance, endings and beginnings.Chapter 5. Playing out not acting out: the development of the capacity to play in the therapy of children who are ‘in transition’ from fostering to adoption. (2008)Chapter 6. ‘The playful presence of the therapist: ‘antidoting’ defences in the therapy of a late-adopted adolescent patient (2006)Chapter 7. Transition and change: an exploration of the resonances between transitional and meditative states of mind and their role in the therapeutic process. (2012)Chapter 8. The impact of listening on the listener: consultation to the helping professions who work with sexually abused young people. (2009)Chapter 9. ‘Transforming despair to hope in the treatment of extreme trauma: a view from the supervisor’s chair’ (2016)Appendix: publicationsReferencesIndex

‘In her customary erudite and accessible writing, Monica Lanyado uses a wide range of theoretical understanding to address the ways in which despair in these children and in those who try to help them, can be transformed into hope for a better future. She champions and celebrates the work of psychoanalytic child and adolescent psychotherapists who have worked with these young people now for many decades. She synthesises her wisdom into an important resource for anybody wishing to extend their understanding of this vital work.’ Angela Joyce, Training and Supervising Psychoanalyst, Child Psychoanalyst, British Psychoanalytic Society. Chair of Winnicott Trust.‘This book springs from the rich resources of a professional lifetime devoted to the challenge of treating seriously neglected and abused children. Using a Winnicottian approach to both technique and theory, Monica Lanyado is led to devote attention to the well-being of the therapist as well as the child. She has learned what desperation the therapist can suffer and how vital it is to understand and manage this. Therapists will find this book an empathic and supportive companion which can help them bring hope to traumatised lives.’Juliet Hopkins Ph.D., Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist. British Foundation of Psychotherapists. ‘There are few authors who can describe what actually happens in therapy as vividly as Monica Lanyado. This book examines the real-life process of therapeutic change for children who have experienced neglect and trauma and the thinking is underpinned by a range of accessible and well-integrated traditional as well as recent theory. It is a must-read for all those working therapeutically with children and young people.’ Niki Cooper Ph.D., Head of Learning Place2Be ‘Life chances are dramatically influenced by family and community adversities and, more specifically, abuse and neglect. Lanyado’s book identifies many of the key issues we must pay attention to and especially those which are focussed on children’s recovery from such adversities through therapeutic interventions. She does not avoid the challenges or the frustrations. But there are profound insights and experiences throughout this book and a lasting sense of possibility and hope.’John Simmonds OBE, Director of Policy, Research and Development, CoramBAAF