Sophie Grace Chappell is Professor of Philosophy at The Open University, and Executive Editor of The Philosophical Quarterly. Her books include Reading Plato’s Theaetetus (2005), Ethics and Experience (2011), Knowing What to Do (2014), Epiphanies: An Ethics of Experience (2022), and A Philosopher Looks at Friendship (2024). She is a published poet (Songs for Winter Rain, 2021) and an enthusiastic, though not necessarily gifted, mountaineer and pianist. She lives in Dundee, Scotland, with her family.

• Acknowledgements Part 1: That was then Part Two: This is now Part Three: Is consciousness gendered? Part Four: The adoption analogy Part Five: Gatekeepers, Engineers, and Welcomers Part Six: An Open Letter to J.K.Rowling (June 2020) Part Seven: The View from Lissounes: a thought experiment Extended ContentsNotes

‘Public controversy about the status of people who have changed their gender identification has been mostly characterised by confusion and verbal violence. This book, by contrast, is a model of what a serious philosopher can bring to the discussion – and also of how to philosophise about moral questions in general. Clear, witty, moving, realistic, and patient, it is a profoundly welcome contribution, urging us to beware of distorted generalisations and to listen to the arguments and the narratives of those most directly affected by the debate.’Rowan Williams, theologian and former Archbishop of Canterbury‘A challenging and thought-provoking book by an internationally recognised philosopher who is herself a trans woman. All too often, society’s conversations about transgender people have left out and ignored trans people themselves. It’s time for the game to change – and this book is a game-changer.’Peter Tatchell, human rights campaigner‘With analytic clarity and personal transparency, Chappell invites her readers to join a pressing philosophical conversation about the costs and contradictions of anti-trans rhetoric, and what transgender experience can teach us all about being human.’Robin Dembroff, Yale University‘In this intimate philosophical memoir of trans experience, Sophie Grace Chappell shares both the joys and immense obstacles put in the way of her simply existing. One of her earliest memories is, aged four, asking a loving but censoring parent if she could wear girls’ clothes to school. The answer received that day was unequivocal and representative: “You can be whoever you want to be. Just not a girl”. Her future, ultimately, would tell another story. A story of personal ontological expression, of faith, of mountains, and of philosophy.’Miranda Fricker, New York University

Sophie Grace Chappell is Professor of Philosophy at The Open University, and Executive Editor of The Philosophical Quarterly. Her books include Reading Plato’s Theaetetus (2005), Ethics and Experience (2011), Knowing What to Do (2014), Epiphanies: An Ethics of Experience (2022), and A Philosopher Looks at Friendship (2024). She is a published poet (Songs for Winter Rain, 2021) and an enthusiastic, though not necessarily gifted, mountaineer and pianist. She lives in Dundee, Scotland, with her family.

• Acknowledgements Part 1: That was then Part Two: This is now Part Three: Is consciousness gendered? Part Four: The adoption analogy Part Five: Gatekeepers, Engineers, and Welcomers Part Six: An Open Letter to J.K.Rowling (June 2020) Part Seven: The View from Lissounes: a thought experiment Extended ContentsNotes

‘Public controversy about the status of people who have changed their gender identification has been mostly characterised by confusion and verbal violence. This book, by contrast, is a model of what a serious philosopher can bring to the discussion – and also of how to philosophise about moral questions in general. Clear, witty, moving, realistic, and patient, it is a profoundly welcome contribution, urging us to beware of distorted generalisations and to listen to the arguments and the narratives of those most directly affected by the debate.’Rowan Williams, theologian and former Archbishop of Canterbury‘A challenging and thought-provoking book by an internationally recognised philosopher who is herself a trans woman. All too often, society’s conversations about transgender people have left out and ignored trans people themselves. It’s time for the game to change – and this book is a game-changer.’Peter Tatchell, human rights campaigner‘With analytic clarity and personal transparency, Chappell invites her readers to join a pressing philosophical conversation about the costs and contradictions of anti-trans rhetoric, and what transgender experience can teach us all about being human.’Robin Dembroff, Yale University‘In this intimate philosophical memoir of trans experience, Sophie Grace Chappell shares both the joys and immense obstacles put in the way of her simply existing. One of her earliest memories is, aged four, asking a loving but censoring parent if she could wear girls’ clothes to school. The answer received that day was unequivocal and representative: “You can be whoever you want to be. Just not a girl”. Her future, ultimately, would tell another story. A story of personal ontological expression, of faith, of mountains, and of philosophy.’Miranda Fricker, New York University

Sophie Grace Chappell is Professor of Philosophy at The Open University, and Executive Editor of The Philosophical Quarterly. Her books include Reading Plato’s Theaetetus (2005), Ethics and Experience (2011), Knowing What to Do (2014), Epiphanies: An Ethics of Experience (2022), and A Philosopher Looks at Friendship (2024). She is a published poet (Songs for Winter Rain, 2021) and an enthusiastic, though not necessarily gifted, mountaineer and pianist. She lives in Dundee, Scotland, with her family.

• Acknowledgements Part 1: That was then Part Two: This is now Part Three: Is consciousness gendered? Part Four: The adoption analogy Part Five: Gatekeepers, Engineers, and Welcomers Part Six: An Open Letter to J.K.Rowling (June 2020) Part Seven: The View from Lissounes: a thought experiment Extended ContentsNotes

‘Public controversy about the status of people who have changed their gender identification has been mostly characterised by confusion and verbal violence. This book, by contrast, is a model of what a serious philosopher can bring to the discussion – and also of how to philosophise about moral questions in general. Clear, witty, moving, realistic, and patient, it is a profoundly welcome contribution, urging us to beware of distorted generalisations and to listen to the arguments and the narratives of those most directly affected by the debate.’Rowan Williams, theologian and former Archbishop of Canterbury‘A challenging and thought-provoking book by an internationally recognised philosopher who is herself a trans woman. All too often, society’s conversations about transgender people have left out and ignored trans people themselves. It’s time for the game to change – and this book is a game-changer.’Peter Tatchell, human rights campaigner‘With analytic clarity and personal transparency, Chappell invites her readers to join a pressing philosophical conversation about the costs and contradictions of anti-trans rhetoric, and what transgender experience can teach us all about being human.’Robin Dembroff, Yale University‘In this intimate philosophical memoir of trans experience, Sophie Grace Chappell shares both the joys and immense obstacles put in the way of her simply existing. One of her earliest memories is, aged four, asking a loving but censoring parent if she could wear girls’ clothes to school. The answer received that day was unequivocal and representative: “You can be whoever you want to be. Just not a girl”. Her future, ultimately, would tell another story. A story of personal ontological expression, of faith, of mountains, and of philosophy.’Miranda Fricker, New York University