Sulky, Rowdy, Rude?

Bo Hejlskov Elvén is a Clinical Psychologist based in Sweden. He is an independent consultant and lecturer on autism and challenging behaviour, and an accredited Studio III trainer. In 2009, he was awarded the Puzzle Piece of the Year prize by the Swedish Autism Society for his lecturing and counselling on challenging behaviour. Tina Wiman is a specialist in the field of IT-support for children with special needs. Both Bo and Tina are parents.

• Part One. Introduction. 1. Who has the problem? 2. Children behave well if they can. 3. People do what makes most sense in each situation. 4. The one that takes responsibility can make a difference. 5. Children learn nothing from failure. 6. You need self-control to cooperate. 7. We all do what we can to maintain self-control. 8. Feelings are contagious. 9. Conflicts consist of solutions. 10. We make demands of children that they don't make of themselves - but in a way that works. 11. It is not fair to treat everyone the same. 12. You become the leader when someone follows you.Part Two. We live in a garage. Cases: Liam and the morning row. Ava and the sibling row. Alvin wants to be alone. Hannah and tooth-brushing. The Principle of the gentle approach. Summary.

Oscar Wilde advised that if we wanted children to be good we first needed to make them happy. In this simply written, yet sophisticated book Bo Hejlskov Elvén and Tina Wiman invite us to understand the child's perspective through understanding our own part in it. Clear narrative and powerful vignettes combine to illustrate a range of gentle strategies to prevent or deal with conflict and confrontation that will appeal to parents and teachers alike.