Raising LGBTQ Allies

Chris Tompkins is a teacher, TEDx speaker, spiritual life coach, and LGBTQ inner-advocate based in Los Angeles, California. More importantly, he’s an uncle of five. Chris believes all kids are the future and teaches social-emotional learning throughout Southern California.

• AcknowledgmentsIntroductionSection I: Awareness1: MFTP Part 1: We All Play on the Same Playground: What We Believe and Why2: MFTP Part 2: Language Matters: The Meaning Behind Our Words3: MFTP Part 3: Change Our Beliefs, Change Their StorySection II: Willingness4: Gender, Sexuality, and Santa Claus: An Easy Approach5: Benign Neglect: Not Communicating Is Still Communicating6: Shame: Prevention vs Treatment7: Trauma, Resilience, and Human Dignity: Raising a New GenerationSection III: Change8: Building a New Playground: 6 Simple and Effective Steps9: New Messages, New Playground, New World: A Mother’s Faith10: New Toys: Instructional and Interactive Exercises11: Uncle Chris: The Journey of a SoulBibliographyIndexAbout the Author

Tompkins, a spiritual life coach and TEDx speaker, debuts with a thoughtful guide to creating LGBTQ allies with “open and authentic conversations within families and classrooms.” Using the metaphor of a playground for society-at-large, Tompkins asks parents and teachers to join together and recognize their biases, shift the conversations around gender and relationships, and talk openly about homophobia, transphobia, and bullying. Then, he offers concrete steps for ways to “build new playgrounds for all children.” When dealing with a child who is a bully, for example, he recommends a process of acknowledging their behavior, challenging their negative messages, and helping them forgive themselves. He encourages incorporating same-sex couple examples in lessons and conversations, stocking classrooms with LGBTQ-affirming books and resources, and having open, vulnerable conversations with children that involve asking questions about their relationships and interests. Along the way, Tompkins writes movingly of his closeted teen years, history of substance abuse, and how he made peace with who he is, adding a trenchant personal framework to the well-reasoned advice. Complete with discussion questions, meditations, and practical actions, this guide is a powerful treatise on creating a more accepting world.