'The supporting theory, as worked and reworked in successive chapters, is steeped in a broad range of psychoanalytic perspectives and raises some current and important questions. What, for example, determines the choice of a life-long partner? What are the internal conditions necessary for even contemplating such a choice? Other questions are ones that underlie not only work with couples, but also contribute important dimensions to the understanding of individual adult states of mind, children, adolescents, and families.'- Margot Waddell from the Preface