At first glance the sexual male seems easy to understand, but beneath the surface lie complexities that disrupt lives and relationships. Why can men be so distant in bed? Why do many men love porn so much? And can he love porn and still love his wife? Respected psychologist Michael Bader takes an honest look at the nuances of male sexuality, addressing issues such as sexual boredom, internet sex, and sexual fantasies that can leave women bewildered and men ashamed. Illustrated with engaging examples from his practice, Male Sexuality gives readers, both women and men, deeper understanding of male behavior from the flamboyant to the mundane. Through increased awareness of the psychology behind the sex, Bader aims to enhance individual self-esteem and improve communication in relationships.
Michael Bader, DMH, is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst who has been in practice for over 25 years. He is a widely respected teacher, public speaker, and therapist and lives in San Francisco.
Chapter 1: The Secret Logic of Male SexualityChapter 2: What's Different About Male Sexuality and Why?Chapter 3: The Appeal of Pornography and Internet SexChapter 4: Sexual Boredom and InfidelityChapter 5: Lolita Fantasies and the Sexual Appeal of YouthChapter 6: Sexual Aggression and Pornography—Myths and RealitiesChapter 7: From Morality to Meaning: Changing Male SexualityChapter 8: Sad Moms, Distant Dads, and the Social Context of Male SexualityChapter 9: The Politics of Male SexualityChapter 10: The Value of Difference
Dr. Bader calls us back from our current temptation to censor and judge sexuality and reminds us that understanding erotic life is the best cure for what ails it.