Everyday Parenting with Security and Love

Kim S. Golding CBE, BSc, MSc, D. Clin. Psy. AFBPsS is a clinical psychologist who works in Worcestershire, England where she was influential in the founding of the Integrated Service for Looked After Children - a multi-agency, holistic service providing support for foster, adoptive and residential parents, schools and the range of professionals supporting children growing up in care or in adoptive families. Kim was trained and mentored by Dan Hughes in the use of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP). She is on the board of the Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy Institute supporting the use of DDP in Europe, USA and Canada. She accredits and trains professionals in the approach in the UK and has been invited to speak about this work internationally.

• Introduction. Section 1: Understanding challenges of parenting. 1. Blocked trust: I cannot believe you love me unconditionally. 2. Fear of the intersubjective relationship: I cannot let you influence me. 3. Shame: I need to hide from you. 4. Hidden and expressed attachment needs: I only feel safe when I hide as well as express my needs for support from you. Section 2: Therapeutic parenting. 5. Increasing the capacity to be mind-minded to support therapeutic parenting. 6. Building connections through parenting with PACE. 7. Parenting in the moment: Supporting behaviour through connection with correction. Section 3: Looking after yourself. 8. Learning from the past: understanding yourself through an exploration of your attachment history. 9. Blocked care: losing the joy in parenting. 10. Developing self-care. Reading list. Glossary.

Kim offers us realistic and pragmatic strategies to care for our children that are grounded in the reality of our daily lives and our children's worldview. An essential read for parents of children who have experienced trauma, loss and separation.