Breaking Negative Thinking Patterns Step by Step

HANNIE VAN GENDEREN is a clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, and supervisor and trainer in individual and group Schema Therapy. Since 1990 she has been involved as a senior consultant and clinical psychologist in the treatment and research of anxiety eating and personality disorders at the University of Maastricht. A pioneer in introducing Schema Therapy for personality disorders in the Netherlands, she co-founded the Dutch Schema Therapy Society and the International Society of Schema Therapy, serving in leadership roles in both organizations. She is the founder of the Dutch Schema Therapy Training Institute “Van Genderen Opleidingen”.

• List of exercises viii Preface x1 Introduction 1The five steps 1Introducing: Sarah, Martin and Nora 32 What are modes and pitfalls? 10How do modes arise? 10Basic needs and pitfalls 11Coping styles 17Modes 19Unhelpful modes 23Child modes 23Critical modes 33Coping modes 42Helpful modes 58Healthy adult mode 58Happy child mode 59Summary 603 Step 1: Discovering your own modes 63Where do you start? 63Making your mode model 77A plan to change your modes 79Difficult moments 80Step 1 Overview 874 Step 2: Recognising modes in everyday situations 89Aids in recognising your modes 93Difficult moments 97Step 2 Overview 1005 Step 3: Starting to change modes 102A closer look at the seven sub- goals 103How does an appointment with your therapist go? 108Exercises to change your modes 111Gaining new experiences 111Changing thoughts 134Changing behaviour 137Difficult moments 141Step 3 Overview 1456 Step 4: Changing your modes independently 147Setting goals 148How does an appointment with your therapist go? 150Changing modes in your own way 151Gaining new experiences 151Changing thoughts 171Changing behaviour 178Strengthening the healthy adult 178Learning to care for the vulnerable child 183Learning a balanced way to express your anger 185Limiting the impulsive, undisciplined or spoilt child 195Strengthening the Changing thoughts 203Changing behaviour 204Difficult moments 205Step 4 Overview 2117 Step 5: Continuing to change modes in the future 214Recognising and changing modes early, and identifying triggers 214Gaining new experiences 215Changing thoughts 222Changing behaviour 222A plan to prevent relapse 225Difficult moments 226Step 5 Overview 2308 In conclusion 232Appendix 1: Mode model worksheet 235Appendix 2: Self- inquiry circle worksheet 237Appendix 3: Thought journal worksheet 238 Appendix 4: Visualisation exercise worksheet 240 Appendix 5: Role- play worksheet 242Appendix 6: Homework form worksheet 244Appendix 7: Positive logbook worksheet 246Appendix 8: Changing behavioural patterns worksheet 248Bibliography 250Index 252

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