Attitudes of Gratitude in Love

Known internationally as an expert on change, M.J. Ryan works as an executive coach to senior executives and entrepreneurs around the world, helping them accelerate business success and personal fulfillment. She combines a practical approach gained as the CEO of a book publishing company with methodologies from neuroscience, positive psychology, and asset-focused learning to help clients and readers more easily meet their goals. Her client list includes Royal Dutch Shell, Microsoft, Time, the U.S. military, and Aon Hewitt. She's a partner with the Levo League career network and the lead venture coach at SheEO, an organization offering a new funding and support model for female entrepreneurs. She's the founder of Conari Press, creator of the New York Times bestselling Random Acts of Kindness series, and author of many books, including Habit Changers: 81 Game-Changing Mantras to Mindfully Realize Your Goals. DaphneRose Kingma is a beloved psychotherapist and relationship guide. Sheis also the author of a dozen best-selling books about love and relationshipsthat have sold more than a million copies and been translated into sixteenlanguages and has been a frequent guest on The Oprah WinfreyShow. You can learn more about her work at www.daphnekingma.com.Daphne lives in Santa Barbara, California.

• ContentsForeword by Daphne Rose Kingma1: The Key to Living Our Love2: The Gifts of Relationship GratitudeYou’ll Feel Closer and More LovingYou’re More Likely to Stay TogetherIt’s Positively ContagiousYou’ll Both Be HealthierConflicts Are Resolved More EasilyResentment Melts AwayThe More You’re Thankful, the More You ReceiveYou’ll Touch Love’s Mystery and Majesty3: Myths that Hold Us BackI Need to Protect Myself Relationships Are HardIt’s Dangerous to Be Too HappyIt’s Better to Be Right Than CloseYou Should Be Just Like Me If I Feel It, It’s True Feelings Come before Behaviors It Has to Be a Certain Way 4: Love's Attitudes of GratitudeYou Can Choose What to Pay Attention ToIt’s Right to Notice What’s Right Receptivity Is Key It’s Not about Being a DoormatAssume the Best You’re Not Perfect Either The Other Person’s Quirks Are Delightful Love Is Truly a Gift You Are a Great Gift Too Awareness without Judgment Creates Change Love Is the Cauldron in Which Our Souls Are Tempered It’s All about Learning We’re Here to Bring More Love into the World5: The Practice of Gratitude in LoveJust Begin Be Explicit Practice Truly Seeing Make a Gratitude Laundry List Do It on Your Own Celebrate Your “Usness” Give Thanks for What’s Not Difficult between You Give What You Most Want to Get Remember Your Manners Share What Makes You Feel Appreciated Receive What’s Being Given Do the 5 to 1 Give Thanks for Being Loved with All Your Foibles Recall Your Love Story Don’t Forget the Bad Old Days Notice Repair Attempts Appreciate Love’s Obligations Take a Daily Gratitude Vow Express Your Appreciation to Others Ask a Friend for Help When Times Get Tough, Go to the Higher Level6: The Joyful JourneyMy Thanks About the Author

"Conari Press cofounder M.J. Ryan admits that while it's easy to be grateful for sun, rain and good food, it's much harder to practice gratitude in intimate relationships. But adding gratefulness to a relationship can help remind people why they fell in love in the first place, fuel happiness and even deepen love. In Attitudes of Gratitude in Love: Creating More Joy in Your Relationship, Ryan (Attitudes of Gratitude) presents a multitude of brief essays on not taking love for granted, ditching feelings of resentment, the benefits of relationship gratitude and giving in order to receive."—Publisher's Weekly