Sexy at Any Size

Katie Arons has been featured on the covers of many magazines and in clothing catalogues and newspaper columns. She is the publisher of the newsletter Extra Hip and lives in Los Angeles.

• ContentsAcknowledgmentsIntroduction: How I Was "Discovered" and How I Finally Discovered MyselfChapter One: Why Men Love Big Beautiful WomenThey love our personalities * They love our faces * They love us because we'll eat with them * They love our softness * They love us because we're a part of their culture * They love to make love with usChapter Two: So What Are You Doing Wrong?The hider * The too much * The seeker * The thankfulChapter Three: How to Feel as Special as You AreFinding -- and accepting -- your specialness * Katie's self-esteem building blocksChapter Four: The Outer Shell: Doing It with StyleThe H.O.A.X. system of dressing * Figure flaw do's and don'ts * The bathing suit blues * Lingerie * Shoes * Katie's best shopping tips * Hair * Hairdresser know-how * Makeup * Makeup money savers * Extra touches that show you care * Best nails forward * ScentsChapter Five: The ApproachHopeless cases * Where are the knights? * Going it alone * Making an entrance * Tuning In * Walk the walk * The direct approach * Secret encounters * What if you already know him? * Flirting tipsChapter Six: "Yeah? Well, You're Ugly and Stupid and You Can't Diet That Away!"Coping with rejection * Ignore the ignoramus * Educate him * How to tell him to shut up in a nice way * Killer comebacks * When he says, "Sorry, not interested" * Some comforting words about rejectionChapter Seven: Competing with Thin WomenWhy thin women feel compelled to compete with big women * Love yourself * Don't assume he'll like her better * Decide if he's worth fighting over * Make your move faster than she does * Talk about him * Don't give up so easily!Chapter Eight: Setups, Or, What's the Female Equivalent of a "Teddy Bear" Type?Dances * The personals * Where to advertise and/or to read ads * How to write an ad * What do you say about your body size? * More Tips for Writing an Ad * Responding to his ad * Meeting him for the first time * Matchmaking services * Searching the InternetChapter Nine: Where Blokes Love Bountiful BabesDown Under * Hawaii and other Pacific islands * The Bahamas * Peru and Brazil * Spain and Portugal * Italy and Greece * Mexico * Germany * Africa * Asia * The American South and Midwest * Katie's best travel tipsChapter Ten: How to Make Love to a Man -- Big TimeRemember this: bigger women are sexier than thinner women * Gym benefits * Inner gymnastics * All by yourself * Entertaining: Stimulating all of his senses * Taking control * How to deal with "shapewear" * Sexual positions * Being adventurousResources