Likeability Trap

Alicia Menendez is an MSNBC anchor and host of the Latina to Latina podcast. She has been dubbed &#8220Ms. Millennial” by the Washington Post, &#8220journalism’s new gladiator” by Elle, and a &#8220content queen” by Marie Claire; and her inter - views and reporting have appeared on ABC News, Bustle, FusionTV, PBS, and Vice News. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and two daughters.

“Menendez, a journalist and the cohost of PBS’s Amanpour and Company, issues a friend-to-friend wake-up call for pathological approval seekers.  . . . The description of the problem is perfect . . . . the chatty, friendly, heart-to-heart tone will be a comfort and an encouragement to women hampered by their desire to be both liked and successful.” — Publishers Weekly“Fierce, relevant, witty, and illuminating. The Likeability Trap is filled with hard won wisdom and actionable advice for women who want more than to be liked.” — Rebecca Jarvis, ABC News Chief Business and Economics Correspondent and Host of the No Limits Podcast“Wanting to be liked is more than feeding our ego or calming our insecurities, it can unwittingly impact almost every aspect of our personal and professional life. With her innate sense of wit and eloquence, Alicia Menendez makes us reflect on how we can navigate the troubled waters of likeability, ignore the inevitable noise that blocks our progress, and live at peace with ourselves.” — Maria Elena Salinas, CBS News Contributor“There will be a great deal of enthusiastic nodding and audible sighs among women devouring multimedia journalist Menendez’s first book. . . . This will stoke camaraderie and genuine outrage among women, and might even make a difference, one person at a time.” — Booklist“This book is a love letter to all of us who yearn to be liked (and are ashamed to admit it). Menendez offers research, a reality check, and the reassurance that we’re not alone.” — Tiffany Dufu, author of Drop the Ball and founder of The Cru“Alicia Menendez gets it. All of it. And conveys some of the most poignant advice out there today in this book. She breaks down the construct of women being either ‘strong and cold’ or ‘weak and warm’ and the pressure we face at home, at the office, and in public. It’s as delightful as it is useful.” — Alyssa Mastromonaco, author of So Here’s the Thing… and cohost of the #Hysteria podcast“In a radical departure from business books that urge women to change who they are or how they lead, Alicia Menendez tears to shreds the false choices presented to women by workplaces that constantly challenge whether we have what it takes. She nimbly urges us not to conform or mutate but rather to work toward dimming the spotlight on likeability.” — Erica Cerulo and Claire Mazur, cofounders of Of a Kind and coauthors of Work Wife“Reading The Likeability Trap, I felt a weight lift off me. I realized that feedback and worry about my likeability are systemic issues, not something wrong with me. I understood that I wasn’t alone and that there were things I could do about it. It has been a gift.” — Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out“It is hard to write something both new and noteworthy about women, work, and leadership, but Alicia Menendez has pulled it off. Even as a woman who has been leading for decades, I learned a lot from The Likeability Trap. Best of all, she writes powerfully and directly about the particular obstacles encountered by women of color, adding important voices to the debate.” — Anne-Marie Slaughter, CEO of New America and author of Unfinished Business