Psychoanalytic Reflections on Parenting Teens and Young Adults

Anne J. Adelman is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst with the Contemporary Freudian Society and the Washington Baltimore Center for Psychoanalysis. She is a faculty member of the New Directions Writing Program and maintains a private practice in Chevy Chase, MD, USA.

• Preface; Introduction Anne J. Adelman Part I Parenting In the Digital Age Chapter 1 What Is Lost, What Is Gained in the Digital Age Anne J. Adelman Chapter 2 Growing Up in a World of Cell Phone Technology Christie M. Platt Part II Developmental Concerns Chapter 3 Holding On with Open Arms: Adult Children Living at Home Michelle Flax Chapter 4 It Is Hard to See the Forest When the Trees Are Too Loud: Notes on Autism Parenting Nancy J. Crown Chapter 5 Mastering the Fear of Life-Threatening Food Allergies: Matt’s Story Lizbeth A. Moses Chapter 6 Parenting My Disabled Sister Devra Adelstein Chapter 7 Parenting through Enactments of Loss Karen Earle Part III Unbound: New Definitions of Gender Chapter 8 Personal Essay: Mapping Modern Grief Mary Collins Chapter 9 Transparenting: Journey without a Map Irene Smith Landsman Chapter 10 Gay Fatherhood and the Homosexual Imaginary: Reparative Fantasies, Parenting Across the Gender Divide, and Good-Enough Narratives Noah S. Glassman Part IV Social Topics Chapter 11 Raising Children Cross-Culturally Hemda Arad Chapter 12 Book versus Booze Elizabeth Trawick Chapter 13 "Likening" the "Other": Identifying and Dis-identifying in Adoptive Parenting Billie Pivnick Part V Building Resilience Chapter 14 Personal Essay: Shining Through Kerry Leddy Malawista Chapter 15 No Going Back to Before Ann V. Klotz Concluding Remarks Anne J. Adelman

"How does my therapist do it? Every patient has wondered how their therapist, sometimes idealized, sometimes scorned, manages her love life, raises his children. This useful and unusual collection pulls back the curtain on that second question. With warmth, depth, and beautiful writing we learn what a psychoanalytic sensibility offers parenting in the digital age."-Sherry Turkle, Professor of the Social Studies of Science and Technology, MIT; Affiliate Member, Boston Psychoanalytic Society."This is a rare and special book, first hand reports of parenting in the face of how hard it is to become a person in the unsettling changes of our modern world. Some are happy and others painfully anguished, but all are touchingly wise. In these personal stories, nothing is "as if" or second hand. All have the evocative power of good fiction, yet all carry contributions advancing understanding as valuable as any academic text…perhaps more so, since here insights come in vivo rather than ex cathedra. Conceptually educational and helpful? Absolutely. Emotionally powerful and moving? Definitely. Their memories linger on."-Warren S. Poland, author of Intimacy and Separateness in Psychoanalysis."This is a book not just for parents, not just for clinicians, but for all of us. In moving, personal, well-written essays, highly trained psychotherapists and child development specialists allow themselves unusual vulnerability. They reveal that even with all their clinical sophistication, they were neither perfect parents nor graced with perfect children. Paradoxically, we are reassured when we see that even "the experts" reveal the same uncertainties, sorrows, worries, joys and hopes familiar to parents everywhere. Highly recommended."-William S. Meyer, MSW, Departments of Psychiatry and Ob/Gyn, Duke University Health System, USA.