No More Abuse

The purpose of this book is to help you accurately assess your situation and guide you safely along the path to both physical and mental freedom and onto a new and wonderful life.

A well-researched, comprehensive roadmap to freedom, this book is a must-read for anyone seeking the way out of an abusive relationship. I wish it had been available when I needed it. It is spot on.

-Rose Booth, abuse survivor and strong, independent woman

A fantastic book. Transforming. I couldn't stop reading. The vast majority of my clients are abused women. I will recommend this book to all of them!

-Kathleen L. Quinlan, LMT, Transformational Heart and Soul Healing

If you are (or suspect you are) being abused, this book was written for you. Abuse victims can be rich or poor; young or old; married or in a relationship; college grads, high school dropouts, or in between. With or without children. Working within and/or outside the home. Of any race or ethnicity, religious or cultural tradition. Regardless of your past or current life circumstances, no one deserves abuse. NO ONE! And help is available for all!

Acknowledging the abuse and finding the courage to leave your abuser are the first steps on your journey to a new life. No More Abuse has the information you need to assess your situation, get the help you need to exit safely, move forward into a new life, and rediscover yourself. Within these pages, you will learn:

• How an abuser slowly changes his partner's status from person to possession and why no woman can ever meet his ever-changing, unrealistic, cruel expectations.
• How to realistically assess your situation and determine the level of danger posed by your relationship.
• Why couples counseling with an abusive partner is not recommended and why the mental state of abusers makes their chances of rehabilitation and change slim to none.
• How one phone call can connect you with free services that help you create a plan, escape safely with your kids and animals, file a restraining order, relocate, get a divorce, and obtain the skills and resources you need to begin again.
• How to acknowledge and embrace your basic relationship rights, create and maintain boundaries, and avoid past mistakes.
• How to navigate safely in today's dating world, investigate a potential partner via the Internet, and choose a truly good man.

Filled with helpful resources, No More Abuse provides insight and practical advice from a woman who faced domestic abuse and stared it down. I wish this book had been available when I was counseling parishioners and clients suffering from abuse.

-Rev. Allen E. Schenk (ret.), M.Div., STM,

Clinical Fellow AAPC, Clinical Diplomat APA

Graduate of an eastern university, T. Ann DeCarlo had a decades-long career in the housewares, printing, and construction industries before starting her own business. For the first decade of that career, she was also in an abusive marriage, but until she left her husband, no one, not even her family or closest friends, knew the truth. Today she is dedicated to helping other women find the courage and resources they need to escape their abusers and build a better tomorrow. This is her first book.