Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors

Laney Knowlton, PhD, LMFT‑S, CST, CSAT‑S, CPTT‑S, CCPS, CCRDS‑S, CCBRT, RAE, specializes in PSB, infidelity, and betrayal. She has a Master’s degree in marriage and family therapy and a PhD in clinical sexology.

• Preface: What is the Connected Recovery® Model? Introduction: Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviours: A Guide to Individual and Relational Recovery Phase 1: Repair - Creating Emotional Safety through Truth 1. Education: Trauma and Escape Cycles 2. Honestly: Disclosure / Amends and Defining Self 3. Boundaries: Accountability 4. Communication: Containment 5. Connection: Foundational Connection Phase 2: Reconnect - Deepening Empathy and Connection 6. Education: Emotions and Needs 7. Honesty: Attachment and Family of Origin 8. Boundaries: Relational Patterns and Boundaries 9. Communication: Purposeful Sharing 10. Connection: Developing and Expressing Empathy Phase 3: Restore - Healing Sexuality 11. Education: Defining Healthy Sexuality 12. Honesty: Indentifying and Processing Sexual Trauma 13. Boundaries: Replace, Reclaim & Redefine 14. Communication: Self-Exploration 15. Connection: Sexual Connection Special Topic 16. Parenting Following Betrayal and Breaking Generational Patterns

"Dr. Knowlton's book gives readers a blueprint and pathway towards healing by setting appropriate boundaries; purposeful sharing; expressions of empathy; and reclaiming authenticity and sexuality. This book has been needed in the field for a long time and is a must read for those who have survived relational betrayal through infidelity and problematic sexual behaviors."James C. Wadley, PhD, CST-S, Editor of 'Leading Conversations about Black Sexualities and Identities'"Laney Knowlton has built her reputation on providing sensitive and supportive care to those struggling with problematic patterns of behavior and those healing from betrayal. Within these pages, she shares her wisdom; encouraging the reader to think expansively about what individual and relational health can look like, holding space for hurt without punishing the transgressor, and empowering each person to define what healing looks like for themselves and their relationship."Stefani Goerlich"Dr. Laney Knowlton has masterfully written about the Connected Recovery Model which was developed to help individuals follow a guide for understanding what has happened to them regarding their betrayal, infidelity and problematic sexual behaviors. Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors: A Guide to Individual and Relational Recovery explains how this recovery should include both individual and relational recovery (if it applies) Dr. Knowlton exposes you to many exercises that have created profound changes in the recovery field. This model normalizes the confusion that naturally occurs when discovery occurs. It is as if she has joined your world and sees your fear, confusion, and trauma and she eloquently lays out a plan to assist you in your feelings and gives you hope that you will learn from your recovery and grow stronger as a result. This book is a must read for any individual who has been affected by problematic sexual behavior. This model invites you to work on yourself, your trauma, your shame and move towards your own personal resilience to find yourself perhaps for the very first time."Carol Juergensen Sheets, LCSW, CCES-S, CSAT-S, CCPS-S, CPC-S"Healing from Betrayal, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behaviors: A Guide to Individual and Relational Recovery offers a clear, trauma-informed formula for helping readers heal from both problematic sexual behaviors and the resulting trauma experienced by their partners. With the sure-footedness of a seasoned guide leading wounded travelers through a wilderness of pain, Dr. Knowlton gently walks readers through a three-phase recovery journey — from inner despair to the discovery of a stronger, higher self."Janice Caudill, PhD, CSAT-S, CCPS-S, CPTT-S, PBTT, IAT, SEP