Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, Revised and Expanded

Albert J. Bernstein, Ph.D., (Portland, OR) is a clinical psychologist, business consultant, and the author of Dinosaur Brains, Neanderthals at Work, and Sacred Bull. His books have been translated into twenty languages.

• 1 Children of the NightAre They Really Vampires?Antisocial VampiresHistrionic VampiresNarcissistic VampiresObsessive-Compulsive VampiresParanoid Vampires2. Maturity and Mental HealthWhat Causes People to Become Emotional Vampires?Immaturity Versus EvilThe Everybody and Nobody RuleWhat If You See Yourself?3. The Way of VampiresVampires Are DifferentVampires Prey on HumansVampires Can’t See Themselves in a MirrorVampires Are More Powerful in the DarkProtecting Yourself from Vampires4. Lovable RoguesThe Ferrari-Toyota DilemmaHow to Recognize an Antisocial VampireThe Antisocial Emotional Vampire Checklist: Listening to the Call of the WildWhat the Questions Measure5. Vampire DaredevilsThe Physiology of ExcitementDaredevil HypnosisFemale DaredevilsHow Vampires Keep You Coming Back for More10 Ways to Protect Yourself from Daredevils6. Daredevils in Your LifeThe Action HeroThe LiarThe Unfaithful LoverDaredevil Ex-HusbandDaredevil DadsDaredevil Adult Children7. Antisocial Used Car SalesmenUsed Car HypnosisIs Honesty Really the Best Policy?8. Vampire BulliesThe Instinct for AggressionVampire Bully HypnosisWhat to Do About BulliesHow to Do the Unexpected9. Antisocial Used Car Salesmen and Bullies in Your LifeLiving with a LiarBullies in Your LifeLiving in a Minefield10. Therapy for Antisocial VampiresThe GoalAnger Control TreatmentTreatment for AddictionSelf-HelpWhat Will Hurt11. Show Business, Vampire StyleWhat It’s Like to Be HistrionicThe Histrionic DilemmaWhat the Questions MeasureThe Histrionic Vampire Checklist: Living a Soap OperaHow to Protect Yourself from Histrionic Vampires12. Vampires Who Ham It UpHam-It-Up HypnosisWriting a Safe Role for YourselfIllness as TheaterCelebrities, Fans, and WannabesNine Ways to Protect Yourself from Histrionic Hams13. Passive-Aggressive VampiresGiving Until It HurtsIllness as CommunicationPassive-Aggressive HypnosisThe High-Self-Esteem SyndromeNine Ways to Protect Yourself from Passive-Aggressive Histrionics14. Histrionics in Your LifeHistrionic Martial ArtsMy Mother, the Drama QueenThe Queen of GossipYour Depressed SisterMale Histrionics15. Therapy for Histrionic VampiresThe GoalProfessional HelpSelf-HelpWhat Will Hurt16. Big Egos, Small Everywhere ElseWhat It’s Like to Be NarcissisticThe Narcissistic DilemmaNarcissism and Self-EsteemWhat the Questions MeasureThe Narcissistic Vampire Checklist: Identifying the Self-Styled Smartest, Most Talented, All-Around Best People in the World17. Vampires Who Are Legends in Their Own MindsHow Narcissistic Legends Prevent Themselves from SucceedingNarcissistic Legend HypnosisHow to Socialize Narcissistic LegendsNine Ways to Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Legends in Their Own Minds18. Vampire SuperstarsDealing with Superstars’ Insatiable NeedsSuperstar HypnosisSex and the SuperstarSuperstar Depression and AngerNine Ways to Protect Yourself from Narcissistic Superstars19. Narcissists in Your LifePundits from HellTiger MomSeason’s Greetings from the Narcissist in Your Life20. Therapy for Narcissistic VampiresThe GoalProfessional HelpSelf-HelpWhat Will Hurt21. Too Much of a Good ThingWhat It’s Like to Be Obsessive-CompulsiveHow Much Is Too Much?Punishment, Where Good and Evil MeetWhat the Questions MeasureThe Obsessive-Compulsive Vampire Checklist: Vice Masquerading as VirtueThe Obsessive-Compulsive Dilemma22. Vampire Perfectionists and PuritansWhy Do They Always Seem Angry?Obsessive-Compulsive HypnosisProduct Versus ProcessDemanding PrioritiesPerfectionistsHow the Imperfect Can Deal with PerfectionistsPuritansMeet Your Inner TeenagerNine Ways to Protect Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsives: What to Do When the Good Guys Are After You23. Obsessive-Compulsives in Your LifeControl FreakControl Freak ParentsMarried to a Control Freak24. Therapy for Obsessive-Compulsive VampiresThe GoalProfessional HelpWhat Will Hurt25. Seeing Things That Others Can’tParanoid PurityWhat It’s Like to Be ParanoidThe Paranoid Emotional Vampire Checklist: Next Stop, the Twilight ZoneWhat the Questions Measure26. Vampire Visionaries and Green-Eyed MonstersThe Paranoid QuestParanoid HypnosisVisionariesHow to Recognize Crazy IdeasParanoids and ReligionGreen-Eyed MonstersThe Nine Elements of Vampire-Fighting Strategy: How to Give Paranoids a Glimpse of Reality27. Therapy for Paranoid VampiresThe GoalProfessional HelpSelf-HelpWhat Will Hurt28. Sunrise at Dracula’s CastleIndexFootNoteCh01_FnCh07_Fn1Ch07_Fn2Ch18_Fn1