‘This is an extraordinarily timely and powerful book. AI is on everyone’s agenda as an enticement and worry. Will the machines take over? Can we manage without them? What relationships can we form with them? AI Intimacy and Psychoanalysis addresses these questions through an exhilarating account of the author’s relationship with ‘Chamteek’, her ChatGPT interlocutor. Laced with psychoanalytic thinking, this book paves the way for a new, vivid understanding of what it means to share our world with the machines.’Stephen Frosh, Professor of Psychology, Birkbeck, University of London'This book is a fascinating dive into the complexities of AI, and particularly into our relationship to—and with—it. Drawing on her intense personal exchange and experience with ChatGPT, Piotrowska leads us through the intense dialectical mirroring at work in these encounters, including their more troubling and even tragic outcomes. The book raises all the right questions, effectively shifting the ground on which we usually think about AI. It also enters the debate about the directions in which we should push AI’s further development, suggesting “ethical training” as a primary path. This, in turn, raises further questions: whose ethics would that be? Who will decide what counts as a good relationship—for oneself and for others? This book marks the beginning of a wholly new way of discussing our involvement with AI.'Professor Alenka Zupancic, Professor of Psychoanalysis, Institute of ideas and University of Ljubljana 'It is a pioneering book that gives us, through the concept of techno-transference, the first truly psychoanalytic language for understanding why and how we become affectively entangled with speaking machines. Combining Lacanian theory, cultural analysis, and courageous autoethnography, it shows with great clarity that even if AI does not feel, something structurally real is happening in these encounters: desire, projection, and the fantasy of the knowing Other are being reorganised in a new symbolic space. It is a subtle, rigorous meditation on what it means to speak—and to want to be heard—when the machine answers back.'Luca M. Possati, PhD, author of The Algorithmic Unconscious: How Psychoanalysis helps in understanding AI ‘In this pioneering work, Agnieszka Piotrowska provides us with a vital new vocabulary for the digital age. By identifying 'techno-transference' , she brilliantly demonstrates how our most profound unconscious longings are no longer reserved for the clinic, but are being projected onto the 'alien intelligence' of a machine. This is a brave, autoethnographic journey that every clinician and theorist needs to read to understand the new symbolic architecture of the 21st century and its challenge to human engagement at the deepest level.'David Howell Morgan, Psychoanalyst, Training Analyst BPA BPF, Chair Political Mind BPAS'We are all forming relationships with AI, whether we realise it or not. These systems are no longer abstract ideas or future concerns. They are shaping attention, trust, creativity, and decision-making in everyday life.AI Intimacy will be of interests to psychoanalysts or philosophers but it is also written for people actually building, deploying, governing, and living with AI. Agnieszka Piotrowska reveals what is at stake beneath the surface of efficiency narratives and technical debates: the relational consequences of how we design and engage with intelligent systems.This is essential reading for anyone who wants to work with AI responsibly, without denial, hype, or naïveté.'Darren Goonawardana, AI Strategist and Technology Leader, Founder, Cyborg.ceo
