The Top 10 Dating Essentials

"The Top 10 Dating Essentials" isn't a book about how to manipulate potential partners into dating you, nor is it about social etiquette on a date. It's about knowing what's important to look for in a partner, what makes a relationship work, and what you need to be working on with yourself.

After three books on couple's conflict resolution, and following up 2014's "Top 10 Marriage Essentials," Paul Shaffer's "Dating Essentials" addresses what every dater should know about dating. The ten "essentials" details:

Knowing what healthy actually looks like
Moving past your own past
Understanding your partner's "type"
Recognizing manipulation
Mythologies of dating
Knowing what to judge
How to handle conflict
Knowing healthy boundaries
Respecting the time needed for relationship transitions
What true intimacy looks like